Make other people feel happiness with our friendship

Muslim Bayudi - Here are tips on how to make others feel comfortable with friendship and our existence:

1. Sincerely interested in other people.

The first way to make others like us is to show interest in others. Interested in the other person can mean love hanging out and interact with others. It is closely related to the level of social intelligence that we have. The better the social intelligence that we have, will allow us to hang out and interact with others. This is the future that will make the other person to please ourselves. In addition, we will get more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than we get within 2 years by means of seeking other people interested in you.

2. Smile

Prof. James V. Mc Connell, a psychologist from Michigan once said: "People who smile, tend to be able to overcome, teach and sell more effectively and raising children are happier". Dear reader, with a smile to the people we meet, show that we are happy to meet with him. Sincere smile means that we're happy. And the pleasure is one form of positive emotions can we "transmitted" to others. This pleasant conditions that allow us to better interact with. Well, what if at the time we are getting into trouble? Force yourself to smile. Train ourselves to be able to smile somehow we choke problem. By forcing yourself to smile, to be able to relieve irritated / angry / sad that arise because of the problem. Authors interested in an ancient Chinese proverb that says: "A man without a smiling face must not open a shop". What is the meaning of the proverb? Yes I Do .... Smile given by the clerk, will make the buyer feel happy for shopping in the store which in turn will become a loyal customer. Broader meaning is to smile at someone it would make people like us and all things associated with us (including our efforts).

3. Remember the name of a person
 
Sure the reader that the average person took an interest in his own name on behalf of another person in this world? Therefore, in order that we are loved by others then we need to mention the name of the person when he met him. Remember well that person's name, and call it the name of a friendly tone. If it has been done, it means we have to praise her. Be careful, do not let one person's name, because it will cause unpleasant taste in the hearts of people who have a name. We also should not forget the name of a person we have ever met. It is indeed difficult. It could be because we rarely meet, or only met once with the long time span. It could also be because we do not take the time, energy and concentration to remember someone's name. Therefore, in order that we are loved by others, let us practice to remember someone's name. Remember: "name has magic and is the property of that person".


4. Be a good listener.

God created man with one mouth and two ears. This means that we are asked to listen more than talk. Being a good listener. People prefer to listeners who better than a good speaker. Being a good listener is a skill and ability are rare and hard to hold. Dale carnegie warned that: "people who become party to make a hundred times more interested in themselves, desires, their problems compared to their interest in you and your problems" Therefore, we need to learn and have the skills to be good listeners. Hopefully, I will attempt to write such things in future.

5. Make the other person feel important

The final way that suggested by Carnegie is make someone feel important. If we are only concerned with themselves, so it is not able to give attention and respect to others, we will be doomed to failure. Feel ourselves to the important and trivial menggangap others is not a commendable attitude. It will lead to hatred against us. People will tend to stay away from us.

6. Discuss the interests of others

As noted above, that people prefer and are keen to talk about things related to her. One of them is its interest. If you know that the person who is the other person you love politics, ask him to talk about the ongoing political situation. Show him that you are also interested in the political issues by providing a wide range of responses. Encourage him to talk further about it, giving rise to the spirit within them. The existence of the spirit to speak to us, and our desire to talk about things that interest that would later be made he loved us. He feels comfortable and nice to hang out with us.

7. Be yourself against others

Everyone has a different character and nature, there the point where someone needs of others because of shortcomings and give the surplus to help others. If you continue to be someone else that you think is good for other people, then you are only hurting yourself and deceive others. Over time, people will be aware of the differences in the nature of you who used to that now. That's what usually makes people become lazy hang out with you.

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